Get the best advice on what you need to know about intimate relationships of all types, from friendships to romantic relationships.
Dating & Race
A Letter To The White Men I Date — Past, Present, And Future
Your commentary and assumptions about my culture are unnecessary and unappreciated.
What’s Really Behind Your Fear Of Commitment
And what to do about it.
How To Drop The ‘With Benefits’ From ‘Friends With Benefits’
To make a genuine friendship happen, both parties must be on the same page.
This Is Why You’re Sabotaging Your Ex’s Relationship
One word: denial.
Dear Kadeejah: I’m Asexual And My Partner Is Not
Asexuality is a spectrum.
This Is What It’s Like Being With Someone Who’s Asexual
Attraction takes many forms.
4 Lessons Straight People Can Learn From Queer Relationships
Be open to all possibilities.
So It Didn’t Work Out With Quarantine Boo. Now What?
It may have ended for good reason.
Is It OK For Straight People To Call Their S.O.s Their ‘Partner?’
Or does the word “belong” to LGBTQ+ folks?
How I Realized Looking For Someone Like Me Was Just Me Screwing Myself Over
It was too much “relationshit” to handle.
3 Signs That You’re Addicted To Dating Drama — And How To Break The Cycle
There’s a difference between passion and a love of straight-up chaos.
Please Don’t Call It ‘Coming Out’
I wasn’t hiding anything.
I’m Quarantined With Someone I Just Started Dating. Help!?
Please give me space. Oh wait, you can’t.
To The People We Loved Before Coming Out As Queer
The love we experience in the closet is just as meaningful as the love we experience out of it.
What I Need My Thin Partner To Know About My Fat Body
I know how I should be treated, and I make sure she knows it, too.
How To Approach Dating Someone Who It Didn’t Work Out With Before
Sometimes second time’s a charm.
7 Signs You And Your Best Friend Are Actually More Than Just Friends
You might be the next Chandler and Monica.
The Late-20-Something Dating Pressures Are Bullshit. Here’s How To Get Past Them
Where’s the “off” button on this relationship escalator?
Everything That Changes Between The First Date And One Year Of Dating
Gone are the days of overachieving.
5 Ways To Make The People You’re Dating Feel Special, Whether Or Not You’re Exclusive
Just because you’re seeing other people doesn’t mean you don’t care.
ButLikeMaybe’s Arianna Margulis On Dating and Her New Book, ‘But Like Maybe Don’t?’
*Adds book to cart*
Health & Wellness
How Understanding The Science Of A Broken Heart Can Help You Recover From A Breakup
It’s not you; it’s your brain.
How To Pick Your Battles In A Relationship
Not every disagreement needs to escalate.
10 Creators Share Their Take On Black Love
Black excellence at its finest.
Why You Actually Should Be Fighting With Your S.O.
Fighting does not equal failure.
How To Create Healthy Boundaries When You Start Dating Someone New
They’re the key to getting what you both want.
The Whole ‘No One Will Love You Until You Love Yourself’ Thing Is Wrong
5 Warning Signs Your Partner’s Jealousy Is Out Of Hand
It’s not you. It’s them.
Yes, I Wear My Heart On My Sleeve, And No, I’m Not Going To Apologize
Here’s my heart. Please be gentle.
What’s The Difference Between Chemistry And Compatibility?
Thou shalt not mistake one for the other.
The 5 Types Of In-Between Relationships You Never Knew How To Define — Until Now
How To Tell When Things Are Ready to Get Real, Based On Your Moon Sign
Your moon sign can shed light on when to take things to the next level.
Dear Kadeejah: I’m In An Interracial Couple
How Important Is Sex If Everything Else In Your Relationship Is Perfect?
If you’re not sure where sex falls on your checklist, maybe it’s time to find out.
Is It OK To Post Thirsty Pictures When You’re In A Relationship?
Some say it’s disrespectful. Others believe it’s an innocent act of self-expression.
7 Reasons Cuffing Season Shouldn’t Make You Feel Like You Need To Couple Up
The season is no reason to lower your standards.
7 Types Of People Your Parents Warned You About And, Boy, Were They Wrong
The elders aren’t always right.
How To Date When You Want A Relationship But Also Don’t
You’re not “evil” or “selfish,” just a little uncertain.
Health & Wellness
What You Should Know When Dating Someone With Bipolar Disorder
We have our ups, downs, and triggers, no different than anyone else.
A Guide To 2020 Dating For Every Sign
Consider this your astrological heads up for the new year.
5 Ex Updates You Shouldn’t Tell Your Friend About — And The Only One You Absolutely Should
Don’t spill the tea.
Kadeejah’s Guide To Dating Long-Distance
Make your expectations known.
What My Parents’ Reversed Roles Taught Me About Relationships
All of us can wear the pants.
Doubting Your Relationship Is Normal — Unless You’re Experiencing These 5 Things
These feelings are much more common than you may think.
Can You Actually Change Someone You’re Dating?
The Top Two Signs Your Partner Is Gaslighting You
If something feels off, lean into it.
Why Casual Dating Isn’t For Me
How to Master The Art Of Compromise In Your Relationship
Every disagreement doesn’t need to be a fight.
Is It OK To Ask Your Partner To Get Off Tinder When You Aren’t Official?
Stop creeping on their profile and keep reading.
The Complicated Relationship Between Straight Women And Bisexual Men
Some women love them, others are wary.
How To Regain Trust With Your S.O. After It’s Been Breached
You can save and even strengthen your connection.
What Each Zodiac Sign Can Expect Now That It’s Cuffing Season
Let the stars navigate you through thotumn and beyond.
Jodie Turner-Smith and Daniel Kaluuya Talk Black Love And Offer Solid Dating Advice
The stars of “Queen + Slim” are here to save you some heartache.
5 Relationship Green Lights You Should Be Looking For
We’re so busy avoiding the bad that sometimes we forget to seek out the good.
How To Deal When Your Parents Don’t Accept Your S.O.
It’s time to figure out what really matters to you.
Ex-Boyfriend Helps His Former Girlfriend Get Matches
We’re all friends here...right?
10 Pros And Cons Of Serial Monogamy
Here’s the good, the bad, and the ugly.
The Types Of Relationships Each Zodiac Sign Is Drawn To
The stars know what works for you.
How Taking A Break Can Save A Relationship
...Or prove you’re not meant to be.
The Psychology Behind Why We Take Our Exes Back — And How To Finally Stop
We know it’s a bad idea. We know it’s going to blow up. And yet, we do it anyway. Ugh.
The Right Way To Start Seeing Your Ex Again
Do the work to avoid the hurt.
This Is Your Least Compatible Zodiac Sign, But Here’s Why You Shouldn’t Worry
A Gemini and Scorpio walk into a bar…
What 7 Dreams Reveal About Your Dating Life
Your snoozes are symbolic.
All The Things That Won’t Help You Get Over A Breakup
Ugh, the agony!
Can A Relationship Ever Really Be Equal?
Or will someone always have the upper hand?
What We’re Misunderstanding About Love — And How To Do It Right
I had a lot to learn.
The Red Flag That Should Send You Running, ASAP
Because not everyone’s a match.
Are Messy Breakups Really A Bad Thing?
How To Tell People Your Relationship Is Over And Done (Without Making It Worse)
If you want to, that is.
21 Things To Remember When You’re Having Instagram Relationship Envy
We see you, Jealous Judy.
F*ck The Breakup Timeline
Yeah, I said it.
How To Know When You Are Truly Ready For A Relationship
It’s different than wanting one.
What’s Going On With Your Emotions At These 12 Stages Of Sex And Dating
Don’t be surprised.
When Is It OK To Keep A Secret From Your Partner?
It’s not that cut-and-dried.
17 Things To Never Share With Someone You’re Dating
These Couples Have Vastly Different Incomes. Here’s How They Make It Work.
It sometimes comes at a cost.
17 Ways To Tell Someone You Love Them Without Saying It
Who expresses feelings anymore anyway?
Is It Time To Check These 3 Relationship Milestones Off Your List?
You’re going to need to ask yourself — and each other — some questions.
5 Things All Couples Need to Learn to Communicate About
Been there, done that.
Trust Me, Cheaters Can Change
I should know.
How To Ask For What You Want And Need In A Relationship
Communication is key, and intention is everything.
6 Reasons I Cheated And Why I Stopped
Human desire is complicated.
I Waited for My Girlfriend to Break Up With Me. Big Mistake.
8 Signs That Yes, You Are in Love
Don’t confuse love with lust.
Your Ex Watching Your Story Means Nothing & 4 Other Things You Shouldn’t Read Into
Let’s all relax for one second.
7 Signs Your New Relationship Isn’t Going To Work
43 Things To Start Calling The Person You’re Dating
Where my wenches at?
What These 5 Common Relationship Fights Really Mean — And How To Deal With Them
Your argument is probably about more than you think.
Why Are People Ashamed of Being Broken Up With?
You can find us under the covers, hiding.
Why Jealousy Is Good For Your Relationship
When dealt with, it’s a healthy emotion.
What To Do When Your Sex Drives Don’t Match Up
The only solution is to get busy (compromising).
How And When To Bring Up 5 Common Dating Deal Breakers
Know your deal breakers before they turn into heartbreakers.
How To Tell If You Are In A Codependent Relationship
It may feel like love, but it’s not.
Are Any Of The Stereotypes About Dating French Men True?
My French husband fulfilled all of them — including the cheating.
What One Year Of Text Messages With My S.O. Reveals About Our Relationship
A deep data dive suggests some unexpected patterns.
How I Finally Stopped Looking For A ‘Perfect’ Relationship
What I thought was love was really just the beginning.
A Glossary Of All The Confusing Dating Terms We Hear, According To You
What is life?
Health & Wellness
We Both Have Mental Illness: Do We Get Each Other Or Are We Doomed for Disaster?
It’s not quite that simple.
The Biggest Relationship Fear Of Each Zodiac Sign
What are you so afraid of?
Introducing My White Boyfriend To My Asian Parents Changed My Outlook On Love And Expectations
But I was terrified.
ICYMI, This Is Why I Don’t Want To Be Your Girlfriend
It’s not you, it’s… wait, actually it’s you.
How A Series Of Toxic Relationships Made Me Realize I Was The Toxic One (Kind Of)
Sometimes you need to hold up the mirror.
The 8 Types Of Relationships You Have In College
You’re not alone on this chaotic journey.
Why Emotional Cheating Is The Worst Kind Of Cheating
One of life’s hard questions.
6 Common Long-Distance Relationship Problems You Need To Fix, Pronto
The LDR can be easy to navigate once you troubleshoot the big issues.
The Most Ridiculous Lies We’ve Maintained To Our Partners Over The Years
I discovered the truth behind my big little lies.
My Brief And Failed Attempt At Polyamory
Once a reluctant dater, always a reluctant dater.
Health & Wellness
How To Make The Most Of A Breakup
It presents more opportunities for reinvention than just a drastic haircut.
How To Break Up With Someone Like A Mature Adult
It’s not impossible, truly.
I Did Long-Distance Too Soon And All I Got Was 10,000 JetBlue Points
At least my relationship with airfare is soaring.
What It’s Like Dating Someone Who Lives With Their Parents
“It’s like being back in high school.”
Is Online Dating Making LDRs The New Norm?
Dating apps let you meet the best match in the world for you, not just the best match who happens to live nearby.
Here’s What Interracial Dating Is Like In The Trump Era
It’s not all bad.
Is Your New Relationship Moving Too Fast?
I was deeply concerned that mine was.
Love Languages As Updated for Social Media
Screen time > quality time.
Why I Fall In Love Every Time I Travel
Or so I think.