In case you haven’t noticed, we like to talk about the way you start a conversation on Tinder. After all, first impressions matter just as much online as they do IRL, if not more so. To drill down on what makes a good opener and what makes people visibly cringe, we enlisted a group of users — and gave instructions not to hold back. Watch the video above for their shock, awe, props, and disdain, and fear not — we got references to both “Harry Potter” and “The Sound Of Music” in there.