As someone who rode solo for 23 years straight before entering my current relationship, I know better than anyone that being single doesn’t always mean you’re alone. Often, it’s that you have too many options to choose from in the romance department.

In those cases, I strongly suggest making a pro/con list. After all, it puts the facts right in front of your eyes. For example, yes, that one dude may have great hair and be a super responsive texter, but that doesn’t change the fact that he is also a serial cheater. To prove that I have a point with this list-making thing, I asked six friends, each of who are currently caught between prospects, to make them.

Allison is choosing between Joey and Ryder.

dating multiple people Pros and cons list

Aster is choosing between guy 1, guy 2, and guy 3.

dating multiple people Pros and cons list

Jen is choosing between Mark and Jared.

dating multiple people Pros and cons list

Ashley is choosing between Billy and Dominic.

dating multiple people Pros and cons list

Leigh is choosing between Derek and Nick.

dating multiple people Pros and cons list

Alex is choosing between Jason and Ryan.

dating multiple people Pros and cons list

I know who I’d choose. Do you?

All names have been changed.